My Partner Cheated: What Should I Do Now?
Finding out that your partner cheated can make everything feel urgent at once. You may want every detail, a final explanation, and a decision about the future before the day is over. You may…
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The Relationship You Have and the One You Hope For: Which One Are You Choosing?
“When this phase is over, we’ll be okay again.” Sometimes that sentence names a difficult season that both people recognize and are working through. At other times, the phase keeps changing its name, years…
Read article →Is It Love or Habit? Looking at a Long-Term Relationship Without Oversimplifying It
You know how your partner takes their coffee, what their face looks like when they are tired, and how they will answer a joke you have repeated for years. That familiarity can feel like…
Read article →Can My Relationship Be Repaired? What Makes Change Possible
When a relationship is in crisis, “Can it be repaired?” often sounds like one question. In practice, it may contain several: Is change possible? Do both people want to try? Do they have the…
Read article →I Don’t Feel the Same About My Partner Anymore: What Does It Mean?
You look at your partner and still recognize someone you care about, but something that once seemed obvious is missing. Perhaps you avoid a kiss, no longer feel eager to tell them about your…
Read article →I Don’t Know Whether to End My Relationship: How to Think Through a Decision No One Can Make for You
By Víctor Silva and Marcela Gómez “I love them, but I do not know whether I want to stay.” Ambivalence does not prove that you should remain in the relationship, and it does not…
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Supporting Is Not Carrying: How to Help Your Partner Without Living for Them
By Víctor Silva and Marcela Gómez You made the appointment, gathered the information, remembered the time, and thought about how to keep your partner from becoming discouraged. When they return, you ask what was…
Read article →What Is Your Part in a Relationship?
By Víctor Silva and Marcela Gómez “I am already doing my part.” That might mean you are paying attention to the way you speak and following through on what you agreed. It might also…
Read article →My Partner Doesn’t Change: What Can I Do After Asking Many Times?
By Víctor Silva and Marcela Gómez You know the conversation by heart. You explain what is affecting you. Your partner says that this time will be different. For a few days, you watch for…
Read article →I’m the Only One Trying to Save the Relationship: What Can I Do?
Explore what it means when only one partner keeps pushing for change, how to distinguish care from overload, and which choices still belong to you.
Read article →What If My Partner Won’t Go to Couples Therapy?
By Víctor Silva and Marcela Gómez “My partner says they love me, but they do not want to work on the relationship.” When you suggest therapy and hear no, it is easy to feel…
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Why Do We Keep Having the Same Argument?
By Víctor Silva and Marcela Gómez “We already talked about this.” You both know the issue. You remember the last fight, and you may even be able to explain why it happened. Then a…
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