{"id":42399,"date":"2026-10-29T22:14:36","date_gmt":"2026-10-30T03:14:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ancestrina.com\/?page_id=42399"},"modified":"2026-10-29T22:17:07","modified_gmt":"2026-10-30T03:17:07","slug":"essays","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/ancestrina.com\/en\/essays\/","title":{"rendered":"Essays"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Philosophical essays by V\u00edctor Silva on relationships, dignity and the choices through which we shape our lives.<\/p>

Read the essays available in English, or explore the full collection in Spanish<\/a>.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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My father wrote about my arrival in the world. I have spent these days writing about his passage through mine.<\/p>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\tRead essay\t\t<\/a>\n\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/article>\n\t\t\t\t

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What remains of fatherhood when a child no longer depends on us? On being available, respecting their choices, and remaining a father without needing to be needed.<\/p>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\tRead essay\t\t<\/a>\n\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/article>\n\t\t\t\t

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Effort, loss, and pain do not tell us whether we are betraying ourselves. What distinguishes a costly choice from giving up our own place?<\/p>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\tRead essay\t\t<\/a>\n\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/article>\n\t\t\t\t

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I can want something with all my strength, work toward it for years, and suffer if it never happens. Life does not have to wait for its arrival.<\/p>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\tRead essay\t\t<\/a>\n\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/article>\n\t\t\t\t

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Sometimes I look at our life and a very simple phrase comes to me: I want it to be you.<\/p>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\tRead essay\t\t<\/a>\n\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/article>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t

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RESOURCES \u00b7 ESSAYS Essays Philosophical essays by V\u00edctor Silva on relationships, dignity and the choices through which we shape our lives. Read the essays available in English, or explore the full collection in Spanish. 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